Working With Others

My wife was laid off this week from her job and we’re taking this opportunity to find her something she loves to do rather than a job she has to do. I began by helping her go through a book called I Could Do Anything If I Only I Knew What It Was  by Barbara Sher. This book examines the “What” if you’re having issues nailing down your life dreams. It helps you get passed the guessing game and into action and I hope that my wife can find something that she loves to do.

I Could Do Anything

I Could Do Anything If I Knew What It Was – By Barbara Sher

Working with someone is a challenge, especially when the goal is so unclear. I found myself feeling upset that we couldn’t find the finish line. I guess it’s my manly “Fix It” nature wanting to be rewarded for being such an awesome help, but also I felt like I was letting her down because over a weekend I wasn’t able to help her find that one true calling when she hasn’t yet found it in her 40 years on this earth. What an ego maniac I am. She was very grateful for the help I did give her and while she slept the answer came without my input. She is working on the plan and will fill me in when she is ready.

Working with anyone is always a challenge. Whether its creating something together, or working on a project, or just cooking a meal in the same kitchen. There has to be give and take. Once the take or the give is over compensated for in either direction feelings can get hurt and the relationship, even the brief one in that kitchen, can begin to break down. I have to remember when I’m helping someone that I need to keep their goals and their needs in the forefront. When I insert how I see it, or what I need into the interactions things get squirrely. I am there to provide the input that helps move the other person along. When I insert selfish motives into my actions things get distorted and I am no longer being of maximum use to the other party.

Hopefully my wife’s time on unemployment yields some breakthroughs and she finds the path towards a new job or better yet and adventure that has the byproduct of giving her fulfillment and a small amount of compensation to boot. Whatever happens I am there for her to help her along.

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